Archive for February, 2010

Good News!

February 25, 2010 Leave a comment

My dear friend Deepika called earlier today to share the news of her pregnancy. Heartiest congratulations dear Gaurav and Deepika. We are very happy for you, and excited to share this experience…as Deepika put it, “…hitting another milestone together.” Guriya and you will deliver a couple of months apart. We should definitely get together before you beautiful ladies go into labor.
Exciting time ahead!

Categories: Friends

Gifts for Baby Sharma from Nanaji & Dadaji

February 19, 2010 Leave a comment

Baby Sharma’s Nanaji got his first gift for him – a couple of potted flowers, flapping their leaves and swaying…’dancing’, using solar engery.  These sunny flowers came from Italy, where Baby Sharma’s Nanaji was on his 17th trip.  He goes there to do research at The Abdus Salam International Center for Theoretical Physics.

He seems to have mellowed with age, since his first gift for Guriya (at the hospital, a few hours after she was born) was a book. Baby Sharma need not worry though! His Dadaji sent Amar Chitra Katha comic books from India. These are the comic books I read growing-up. Baby Sharma will have to wait for a few years before he can read them on his own. His Papa and Mummy will do the honors until then. 😛

Categories: Family

Sharing the news!

February 16, 2010 Leave a comment

I am not a big fan of surprises.  I like to wait in anticipation, maybe worry about the outcome, sometimes nervously, sometimes excitedly, play all possible outcomes in my mind over and over again, never hear or utter anything negative and stay positively realistic.  Certain life situations like illness of a loved one, however, reveal the inadequacies of the human resolve to be 100% positive.  Prayer is then the last refuge.

Well, that introduction to my dislike of surprises was to share with you the creatively endearing ideas of Guriya for sharing the news of her pregnancy and more recently the gender of our baby.

News of a pregnancy is not a surprise in most cases.  If you do the deed, you have to expect the result.  Of course, we were hoping to go from couple to triple (we really wanted to have twins, but there is only so much a human being has in control), and were waiting for enough days to go by before the dipstick test.  An understandable combination of excited anticipation, curiosity and anxiety had Guriya do the test earlier than we had planned.  I and Papaji-Mummyji were invited for lunch at Arun’s place.  Guriya was invited too, but wasn’t feeling too well, so decided to stay home.  Thinking back, maybe she wanted to stay home to do the test and prepare a surprise for me.  Anyway, we talked a few times while I was at Arun’s, and Guriya mentioned that she was outside taking a walk…needed fresh air.  What she was doing in fact, was taking a walk to the closest store to get a beautiful “pregnancy announcement” card to break the news to me.  [photos]   The gift bag you see in the photos is the bag we have used since our first anniversary to give each other gifts in…sort of like a family heirloom.  The joke is that we will ask the OB doc to hand us the baby after delivery in this bag.  😛

Next, we had to share the news with our families.  Guriya had always wanted to be able to do this in person, not over the phone….too impersonal, and one is left wondering all the fun things being said and the blissful smiles on the faces of the news recipients.  Fortunately, Papaji & Mummyji (India) were already with us, and Papaji & Mummyji (Costa Rica) were going to be with us in a few days too.  The night Papaji & Mummyji arrived from Costa Rica, it was really late by the time we got home, and I tried dropping hints (I asked Guriya to not lift any bags, walk carefully, etc.), but they did not get it…probably, they were too tired.  Finally, when I told that Guriya had stopped drinking coke for the next nine months at least, there were tears, smiles, silent prayers with folded hands, hugs and kisses.  Phone calls followed to announce the news to Ritu, Radha and Sheena.  Joy all around!  God had granted Guriya her wish, and we now realize how fortunate we were to be able to share the news with our parents in person.

Now, we had to wait for 18 weeks before we could find out the gender of Baby Sharma.  In the meantime, the Philadelphia area was experiencing the start of what is now a record-breaking winter.  Guriya was starting to have health issues due to the cold weather.  She was diagnosed with migraine triggered by the cold winter weather.  Not wanting to give-up her job, she persisted for a month, before it got unbearable.  She was hardly getting any sleep due to the constant headaches.  We decided that in the best interest of Baby Sharma, she would apply for leave from work and go to Costa Rica for some time…warmer climes and family.  We however, wanted to find out the gender of Baby Sharma before Guriya left for Costa Rica, so that we could enjoy the news together, not long distance.  Alas, it wasn’t to be.  The ultrasound, on the Thursday before Guriya left, was not revealing.  Disappointed, Guriya talked with her OB-Gyn friends in Costa Rica and scheduled an ultrasound for Tuesday, less than 24 hours after landing in Costa Rica.  We had decided that I would be on the phone with Guriya, when Dra.Alfaro performs the ultrasound and the doctor would announce the gender on the phone, so that both of us would hear the news at the same time.  However, Guriya had something better planned.  Instead of 7pm (I was told that the ultrasound appointment was for 7pm), she had the ultrasound done at 5pm.  Ligia and kids went with her.  I was still working when mi vida called me (before she shared the news with anybody else) and asked me to go check behind the TV stand in our basement.  There lay hidden the bag holding the big news.  Boy!  First thing that came to my dumbfounded brain was – “How did Guriya know we were going to have a boy before she left?” 😛  It turns out, before Guriya left for Costa Rica, she had prepared cute cards and notes and hid them in different spots.   One pink bag (in the walk-in closet) and one blue bag (behind the TV stand).  And, depending on the outcome of the ultrasound, Guriya would direct me to the proper bag.  Such endearing ingenuity! [photos]

As for me, I sent a txt to Subbu to inform him that Baby Sharma has “Something big in between.”  The fun nugget is that when Subbu and Sushma were informed that they were going to have a girl, Subbu out of sheer curiosity asked the doctor, “How do you know it’s a girl?”  The doctor turned-out was a smartass and pointing to the ultrasound TV screen answered “There is nothing in between!”

Categories: Pregnancy

2009 – Flashback

February 11, 2010 Leave a comment

2007 made me a husband.
2008 made us (Guriya and I) understand the real meaning of marriage.
2009 made me a home-owner and a to-be papa.
2010 will make me a papa and Guriya a mummy!
2010 will also make my parents, dada-dadi, Guriya’s parents, nana-nani, Ritu a bhua, Radha & Sheena a masi, Adolfo a tio (he doesn’t like how mausa sounds ;-p)!!
What a wonderful year we have ahead of us!

Back to 2009.
Everything (happiness & sadness) has a reason, and one savors happy moments more if one has been through sad times. My belief is – “Remember the sad times, but don’t dwell on them. Focus on the good & happy.”
So, here goes the list of happy times (in 2009) I am thankful for.

  • Healthy family members & friends.
  • Guriya and I truly becoming one. The year brought a reassuring stability to our relationship.
  • Making our house a home. As the popular ad (at least from a few years ago)…
    Rent an apartment -$875
    Buy a house – $290,000
    Make it a home with family – Priceless

    Doing things around the house with Papaji and Mummyji was a blessing I wish for every son. We did everything from hanging mirrors/paintings on the walls, hardware shopping, gardening, painting the patio, putting together furniture and much more. Guriya and Mummyji organized the kitchen. Hanging the curtains was a family affair with everybody contributing. [photos]

  • Stable jobs for Guriya and I. The economy was in doldrums and a number of our close friends lost their jobs, which made us appreciate our stable jobs even more.
  • Guriya’s pregnancy. Best news of the year.
  • Announcing the pregnancy news to our parents in-person. Guriya had been praying for months to be able to share the pregnancy news with our parents in person, not over the phone. God granted her this wish.
  • Sheena-Adolfo’s wedding. They got engaged a few days after our marriage in April 2007, and finally became a man & wife on April 25, 2009. [photos]
  • Radha starting her pediatrics residency. This smart lady cleared the board exams at the first attempt, right after finishing her internship and will soon become a wonderful pediatrician.
  • Subbu-Sushma. Gargi was born. They also bought a beautiful house.  Gargi just turned one! [photo]

I look forward to another fantastic year full of happiness and love.

Categories: Family, Friends, Pregnancy