Archive for June, 2013

Plan for the day

June 24, 2013 Leave a comment

June 23, 2013:
Guriya has night duty at the hospital. After breakfast, I offer Kabir to take him and Aseem ghumne, if they take a nap in the afternoon. Kabir goes on to relate the plan to his Mummy in a phone call.
Device of choice: A cordless mouse 🙂

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That Stupid Dream

June 21, 2013 Leave a comment

June 18, 2013:
Back in April, I had written about Kabir’s 1st verbalized dream. Since then, he has moved out of our bed and back into his room with Aseem, sleeping on the two toddler beds joined together. But, Guriya or I still have to be with him until he drifts into deep sleep. We are trying to transition him out of this phase and start to go to bed independently…so far, with slim success. Earlier this week when I broached this topic with him, and suggested that he go to bed with Aseem, he again related his dream to me, saying, “Papa, main darr jaata hu jab uncle aate hain.” I had so hoped that he would forget about this dream, but….
I tried reasoning with him that all the doors and windows are closed and nobody can enter the house or his room. Also, that I will be in the next room, and if he is scared, he can call for me. Nothing worked. Finally, I asked him to sleep with his Hanuman Chalisa book, since Kabir always counts Hanuman as his best friend! Kabir and I used to go to the mandir every Tuesday evening to participate in the Hanuman Chalisa group….later, we would have dinner at Chipotle before heading back home. YUMMMMMMY
Papa: “Kabir, aap Hanuman Chalisa book ke saath soona. Hanuman ji is your best friend, hain na? Woh tumhara dhyan rakhenge.”
Kabir: “Hanuman, book se out aa jao. Papa, Hanuman book se get out nahi ho rahe hain” 😛
Papa: “Beta, Hanuman ji agar book se baahar aa jayenge, tho humko dikhai nahi denge. Is liye book hain, ki hum dekh sake. Woh aapke saath hain, mere bachche. You have to talk with Hanuman ji. Aap unse baat karo aur bolo ki jab aap soo rahe ho, tab woh aapka aur Aseem ka dhyan rakhe. Woh tho aapke best friend hain!”
Kabir: “OK Papa”
Kabir holds the book in his hand and closes his eyes. I say the prayer and am about to leave the room, when he asks me to stay and lay down with him. Not wanting to push it the first day, I do. I watch the book fall out of his hand as he drifts into deep sleep. I place the book right next to his head and leave the room.
Later on that night, Aseem wakes-up crying. I wait for a few minutes to see if he would go back to sleep, but no such luck. I end-up going to their room and laying down between Kabir and Aseem. When I open my eyes, it is morning. :p

I hope Hanuman ji helps us help him transition to going to bed by himself.

Categories: Kabir

Samajhdar bada bhai

June 21, 2013 Leave a comment

June 18, 2013
Guirya was doing night duty at the hospital, and I was home with the kids after school. We had taken an evening stroll and now it was time for dinner. Now, nobody in my family is as excited as Aseem is at the sight of anything edible…let alone a tasty meal cooked by me! 😉 So, here I am trying to get dinner plates ready for both Kabir and Aseem. Aseem is so eager to start eating that he is using the full range of his vocabulary to convey this to me. Finally, I get the dinner on the table and am feeding them both. Yes, Kabir has to be fed too, unless it is dahi or pinto or bread or milk or a handful of other dishes…sigh! Anyway, I got distracted for a minute talking with Kabir and Aseem started crying, for he had to sit idle for that time after having finished his last mouthful of food.
Papa: “Aseem, beta, de rahe hain Papa, khana.”
Kabir chimes-in with this: “Papa, I think Aseem Mummy ko miss kar raha hain, is liye cry kar raha hain.” He then turns to Aseem and says, “Aseem, Mummy hospital mein kaam kar rahi hain. Rona nahi.”

That’s my samajhdar guapo…always like this, except when he is the one missing Mummy. ha ha ha

BTW, Aseem did not like the chana daal I had cooked earlier that day. My Fav!

Categories: Aseem, Kabir

Mamma – Do Do – Hola – Agua

June 19, 2013 1 comment

Hamara Aseem…hamara pyaara Aseem…mera googly eyes
He is 1 year 4 months and 27 days today. He is a physically active boy…reaching his physical milestones (walking, climbing, running, grasping, throwing, etc.), around the same age when Kabir started talking clearly…around 9-10 months! And, now it seems Aseem is on track to match Kabir reaching a different milestone around the same age – talking (for Aseem) and running/climbing/etc. (for Kabir).
As of now, the only word Aseem says reliably is “Do Do”. “Do Do” for Aseem stands for a dog. Anytime, Aseem sees a dog or hears a dog bark, he points his finger in that direction and says “Do Do” 🙂
He also repeats “Hola” and “Agua”, but we doubt he understands yet what those words mean. We are just thrilled to hear a recognizable word come out of his beautiful mouth!
“Mamma” is a word that Aseem started saying first, but he uses it for anything and everything…for his mummy, his papa, for food, to call your attention to him, when he wants to be picked-up, etc. :-p

He definitely understands everything and knows everybody, but has chosen to get his work done by employing his limited vocabulary with grunts, shouts, cries, and by pointing at things. When Ritu was visiting over Kabir’s birthday a couple of weeks ago, we were all sitting around and Guriya asked him to give a spoon to Ruchi bhua. He dutifully took the spoon, turned around and went straight to Ritu and handed it to her. So exciting!!!! Later, we asked him where Kabir was, and he would point to him. Where Radha masi was, and he would point to her.

My theory around why he hasn’t started speaking yet is that Kabir speaks so much that Aseem does not get a chance to exercise his vocal chords. ha ha ha Sure, there are saner reasons like him being exposed to 3 languages at once, but my theory is way funnier! 🙂

BTW, Kabir’s first word was “Thank You”. My guapo gentleman!

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Kabir – Our sure-shot sleep inducer

June 19, 2013 Leave a comment

June 18, 2013: Kabir turned 3 nine days ago. Over these 3 years, he has transitioned from sleeping in the crib to his own bed, from diapers to ‘big boy’ underwears, from baby food to solids, from scooting to crawling to walking to running, from being the center of everybody’s attention to a doting big brother showering Aseem with attention and love, and many many more milestones. But, one thing that has not changed is him wanting either Guriya or I with him in bed when he goes to sleep. And, that has almost always meant, us drifting into deep sleep and waking-up the next morning thinking about all the things left unaccomplished the previous night. Lately though, Guriya and I have not been very happy with this practice, and have been thinking of ways to get him to go to bed all by himself. He loves to snuggle-up to Aseem like he never does with me. With Guriya though, he clings to her with not an inch of space between them before he sleeps. We think he likes to feel that he is not alone and now that we have transitioned Aseem to a toddler bed too, Kabir can touch him and feel secure while he sleeps. He still insists that either Guriya or I get in bed with him because Aseem is asleep by the time Kabir is ready for bedtime.
Kabir has heard Guriya and I talk about trying to get him to go to bed with Aseem, and without either of us, but never commented on it. Until today morning. Last night, Guriya had tucked-in Aseem while I got Kabir ready for bed. I led him to his bedroom and helped him to the bed with Aseem and Guriya. Kabir wanted to sleep with his mummy. I was about to leave the room, when Guriya and Kabir ask me to stay. I lay on the bed and sure enough both Guriya and I fell asleep right there with our boys. Today, Kabir woke-up a little around 5:40am, just as Guriya was getting ready to leave for work, and I was getting breakfast ready for her. He calls for us from upstairs and greets us with the cutest good morning. He is still sleepy and lays down on the sofa. When Guriya is ready to leave he gives her a big kiss and waves…asks her once to not go, but understands that she has to go because there are sick people at the hospital who are waiting for mummy to come and get them better. 🙂
After Guriya leaves, I sit down with Kabir and am about to talk about how we want him to go to bed at night by himself, when he says the following (audio recording):

Basically, he said that he will go to bed with Aseem, and that I should put-on the “lamb-i didi” video (HoMedics Sound Machine this was a gift from Sheena when Kabir was a few months old. We have used it since and Kabir loves it!) for him. I should them sleep with Guriya in our bed. And, he would wake-up in the morning and wish us good morning!
Guriya and I cannot wait to reclaim our late-evenings. 🙂

Categories: Aseem, Kabir